My wife is like any other I guess. She wears jeans around the home, works a nine to five job to help out, and she is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen which is why I have this dilemma. Oh sure, it may be easier looking in from your position, but from where I sit it is indeed a problem, for me at least. We have been married for five years now and have settled many differences so we are now at a comfort level we can both live with.
Stacy, my wife, the quiet, tall blond that gets compliments from all who survey. I am five years older the she, I am twenty seven and she twenty two. We argue about it all the time and I usually lose. If we are to be equals than I must learn to trust her, she always says. I do trust her with all of my heart but I still can’t help think if she is playing me for the fool.
I know I haven’t told my story to you as of yet, but I will. The thing of it is, if I tell people, they might tell me what I don’t want to believe. I am very skeptical of people. If I do tell, who knows what some of the guys I know will try and do. Maybe I am being paranoid but maybe I am not.
We both work, Stacy and I. We both clean the house, cook the meals and get tired. We did agree on one night of the week for alone time. I spend my alone time out with the guys and she out with the girls so she says. This is where we argue a lot. I head out on Thursdays to play poker, her night is Fridays. You don’t see a problem yet, because that’s not a problem, this is. I am wondering, no, more than wondering, obsessed, angry, and emotional on what is really going on.
When I go out, on my night, I simply head over to my buddies house to play cards. When she heads out, I can only watch as she gets ready. Her smile is huge as she rolls on those black silk stockings with matching pumps complete with garter belts. I did question her one time and her answer was that she needed to feel feminine and she also needed to compete with her gal pals when it came to her femininity. Ok, I never brought that up again because it made sense. I was just over reacting because my beauty was not going to be with me and she looked smoking hot. She then puts on that same dress every time. The color will change but the theme remains the same. No back, low cut showing off her twins and very sleek and sheer. The dress is long enough but still above the knee with a slit up the side and always complimenting pumps. The makeup is heavier than usual and although she never wears ruby red, her lips are never without on her Friday nights out with the girls.
She is ready. She walks over to me and places her hand on my shoulder and always says, “I wont be too late but get some sleep.” She claims she would kiss me but doesn’t want to mess up her lips. She has a different aura about her as she heads towards the front door, more confidant, more sensual, actually happier then I have seen her when she is just playing wife to yours truly.
Its always the same. I pretend to be asleep as she walks in the bedroom at three or four in the morning smelling like smoke, booze and that worries me. The smile is still there, she is a little tipsy, well hell, sometimes outright drunk, and she actually does a little strip tease as she undresses folding her close carefully as if to thank them for making her look so good. She than heads into the bathroom and spends about a half an hour and if I listen hard I can almost hear her talking as if she were on the phone. She walks back into our bedroom and lays in bed. I usually fall asleep and I assume she does too.
So, that’s about it, am I just being paranoid? I mean, I go out with the guys and I don’t make it a night of lust so why should I assume she does?
Our sex life is a private and sacred thing so I wont plaster details on here but I will say we have a good one. Maybe if she weren’t so perfect, so hot, so sexy, so model like. Am I just obsessing on something that is in my imagination only? i don’t want to believe that she is cheating on me because I do trust her fully but I have seen many a women drunk in my life and they have been known to flirt and even cling to me. I do turn them all down but does my wife? I need feedback, please, I will trust your judgment so please help. Is she cheating on me or am I just overreacting. I am not going to pretend I know women so well, no man knows what is going through the mind of a woman. I am a realist. I know women as well as men have a few secrets, that’s just life. Please help me in understanding my situation better, I am begging here.
I am going to post updates but please feedback.
Here is the latest. Yesterday, Friday, just came and went. I am more obsessed than ever with this, my situation if I even have one. Ok, I decided to wave my night out with the guys and sat in my car down the street. I sat for hours watching my house. I didn’t know what to expect, well, I guess I was waiting for my wife to be scantily clad running from the house jumping in some guys car but she didn’t and when it was time for me to be home, she was sitting in the bathroom talking on the phone. So I was wrong. Last night was the same old same old. She went on her night out this time showing more than I would like her too but she did her usual, am air kiss and a swift departure. I waited by the window and the taxi dropped her off at three thirty in the morning. I could tell by the way she was staggering ont the front porch that she was drunk, very to say the least. I ran upstairs to our bedroom and pretended to be asleep. I waited as she did her dance in front of the mirror, and the bathroom phone call. When she finally came to bed I pretended to wake. I asked her if she had been drinking and she admitted that she did drink some which I had no problem with because she is an adult. I pretended to yawn and wipe the sleep from my eyes. “So, did you have fun tonight?” I asked, Oh yeah, it was truly one of the best nights ever.” she replied as she giggled as if she just told an inside joke. “You want to share?” I asked, she said, “Nothing to share, we gossiped all night and made martini’s, boring to say the least.” With that said, I rolled over and stared at the walls until I fell asleep. Maybe there is nothing to all of this. Should I have pressed her more on issues bothering me, should I give her the third degree? I am waiting for someone to enlighten me because when it comes to women, I am just not that smart. First thing, when she tells me it was one of the best nights ever and then tells me it was boring, what am I supposed to think?
Update Feb 8th
Sunday and we had our annual Super Bowl Party. There was about seven of my friends here and their wives who managed to set up in the kitchen armed with beer, and vodka, and were chatting away while the boys watched the Saints march in. My wife is not an alcoholic, she only drinks when we have special occasions like the super bowl and her gals nights. I was hoping for her to get blitzed so we can continue our talk. Since no one has yet given me advise I am going to keep doing what I am doing wrong or right.
Me: So, you seemed to have had fun, at least if the liquor is any indication.
Misty: Yeah, it was a good party.
Me: What did you gals talk about, or is that a secret us guys are not allowed to hear?
Misty: We just talked about life, you know, wife stuff.
Me: Come on, wife stuff, all that booze wasted on wife chatter?
Misty: Yeah, we had fun, so how was the game?
Me: Great, I only hope you were able to talk with all the racket we were making.
Misty: Yeah, we were just fine and had loads of fun.
Me: Listening to a bunch of routy men cheering couldn’t have been that much fun for you unless you like that sort of thing.
Misty: Depends on what they are cheering about. men are men, they will always have something to cheer about.
Me: Yes, guys tend to cheer for what they like, favorite team, hot women, you know.
Misty: Yeah, they need that I guess.
Me: Yes, some men cheer while others take what they need, well, when they like what they see, you know I mean cheering for.
Misty: Well, men can be aggressive, us women, well we are petite little flowers.
Me: Meant to be picked, they love when they are picked.
Misty: I guess it is the attention, the flattery, you know.
Me: So, how many time have you been picked? Just knowing how the attention makes you feel.
Misty: No, wait, not me, other women and no we weren’t talking about those types of men at all tonight.
Me: What types did you talk about?
Misty: We were talking about female things, you would never understand.
Me: I guess, I am going to clean up and I will see you upstairs.
Misty, I will probably be asleep when you get up there.
Me: ok, pleasant dreams, nothing too naughty I hope.
Misty: He, where ever my dreams take me.
Ok, that’s it for today.
Updated, Feb 9th
I called her at her job and one of her co workers said she went out to lunch with a few of the others. I named a few of her friends at work but the person refused to say, well she wouldn’t say directly. She just said, “I didn’t see them leave but she said she would be an hour or so.” Ok, innocent until proven guilty,
It is like I don’t know her anymore. Like she has her live at home with me and another life outside of the home. By the lack of people giving me advise, I can only guess, the women reading this wont answer to protect their own, and the guys, well they just are as clueless, as I am.
I just don’t know anymore. At home she seems to want to cover up, jeans, sweats, baggy tops, at work, or hanging out with friends, dressed to the nines showing off all her assets. I tried something tonight. We were lounging after dinner, the television was on and we were watching a movie, so far so good right well, I already looked at the guide and the movie that came on after was rated adult so just before the movie we were watching was over I told her I was heading up to bed because I was beat. When we are together, she always makes me turn the adult movies because she says, we don’t need to be watching that fake stuff. When I headed up, the movie ended and I just waited to see if she would come up after but nope, she sat and watched the adult flick. I was watching from the staircase for a while. It seems that she was more interested in that one then when we were watching the regular movie. I give up. I guess I will just have to figure this out on my own. I am planning something great for this Friday. Can’t wait to see what happens when she gets home from her girls night out. If she is drunk as she was last week, we shall see what gives. I also know she is way out of my league. I was warned she was high maintenance, but when I married her she was down to earth. Please respond, I am feeling so alone right about now.